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Title of the Paper (Interpersonal Communication and Paralanguage ) Submitted By ( Kadeejah Johnson, [emailprotected] ) Number and Name of Course (Oral Communication - COMM 101) Class Meeting Time/Day (M/W/F: 9:00 A.M. - 9:50 A .M.) Professor (Dr. Ephraim Okoro ) Semester (Fall 2016) Today's Date (Monday October 10 , 2016) Bowie State University Department of Communications Bowie, Maryland Pat was the only person I could talk to, the only person I could think about and was one of my best friends. I could tell him what happened and he would be able to tell me what I said right back, my expressions and all. He was my better half, and the only person in the world I could get lost in time with and not care to come back. The fateful day he asked me to marry him, and that's when I knew he wanted to be my best friend forever. I made a promise that my yes, meant that my only attention would be on him, and the only person I communicate with and feel myself getting lost in conversations with. I made that promise to him, but there had been a time when I forgot how to love him, and I forgot how to be a good woman to him. I decided one day that I did not want to get engaged anymore, I found a new passion, I found a new love, and I started to notice that Pat notice too. I found that my advances to say that I was no longer in love, and am no longer able to be that woman for him, the one he still enjoyed waking up to in the morning even until this day. The best way that I knew I could was if I told him in my private time, in my time of most desperation, I found myself so in love with this new guy that to know that I would have to go back to sleep next to Pat would make me feel vulgar. I couldn't stand the temptation to sneak out when Pat would go to sleep anymore, I couldn't live with myself anymore when he would look at me and tell something was wrong, but I would say nothing. The lies would continue to tear me in half evenly and then I found my passage; the only way to actual put my plan into action was to go out dramatically. I found it unfair that I would have to get my friend involved, which I know is a terrible mistake, what is a girl to do? The friend that I had been seeing has a degree in Mass Communication, and in that he agrees that there is a better way to let Pat know that the feelings I once had for him had went away, and that there is something that is out there better for us. This is what caught my attention from this guy, his understanding of evaluating paralanguage and being able to express my feelings without exhorting Pat, and leaving him vulnerable. I found that according to (hunterfact, 2015), "Paralanguage that takes place in the face-to-face communication has been said to make it difficult for an individual to hide real feelings or emotions." When heading in with the need to tell someone that I am no longer interested in being engaged would change everything for me. I know from this that I do not have a choice in telling him in person. Paralanguage leaves me vulnerable, it leaves us both in that state, and it also leaves us upset and hurt. I am very aware that doing it through the man that I have found l ove with now, is a gamble but it is one that I am willing to take. Paralanguage is the most difficult form of communication in terms of telling someone that they are not the love that they thought they wanted. It also allows us to feel that vulnerability in the issue as well as being able to tell the difference between being able to love someone, and temptation. It is the fear of allowing communication to cause fear, and to hide a serious conversation only causes more fear within.